Common Behaviour That Kills Your Relationship 

do you sometimes get scared that you're not being a good partner to your significant other or if you're not in a relationship maybe you don't want to start one out of fear that you won't be enough for them even though relationships can be a beautiful union between two loving people they're not easy it takes effort to create a bond with another person that will last through all the obstacles life puts in front of you being aware of your behavior could be the first step towards keeping your mind and relationship healthy here are some common behaviors that kill relationships.

number one
angrily reacting to criticism

sometimes we feel the need to criticize

the people we spend time with that critique doesn't need to be anything serious but the fact is we don't like everything about people 

of the time so chances are your partner will

sometimes criticize you too the way you handle that criticism is a key to a healthy relationship do you get offended and give them the silent treatment do you turn it around against them do you get angry and yell at them all of these behaviors could damage your relationship in the long run it would send a message to your partner that

you're not open for communication and

accepting your own mistakes instead try to think about what you partner said and why

take it as something that your partner finds important and try to find a solution together

number two
disrespecting your partner's privacy
even if you're a couple you're still an
individual

as an individual you want to have your own private space for things you enjoy as a person your partner deserves that space too problems can arise if you overstep their

boundaries this could mean going through

their phone demanding to see their messages or call logs not allowing them to see friends or family and demanding you go out with them every time everywhere this could make your partner feel suffocated and

lose a sense of individuality it could feel like you're controlling them and become unhappy in a relationship if you feel this behavior is common for you it's likely there are some complex emotions underneath those actions feelings of inadequacy low self-esteem and attachment issues working out these problems in therapy could help you and your relationship 

Number three: bring yourself down:

even if you have a loving partner by your side sometimes you may get overwhelmed with feelings of insecurity it happens to many of us and it is totally okay to have those days every once in a while but if you're constantly feeling insecure and bringing yourself down in front of your partner you could unintentionally push them away they

might be annoyed or frustrated that they

can't help you with your self-image insecurity could lead to other behaviors like jealousy over analyzing your partner's words and needing constant reassurance this could drain the energy from both of you and damage the relationship.

number four
giving ultimatums

sometimes giving an ultimatum is the only option you're left with to get the desired outcome or change someone's bad

behavior for example if their behavior is putting you in a dangerous situation but for non-harmful mundane situations opt for a conversation rather than an ultimatum

when you give an ultimatum you're trying

to manipulate a person into doing what

you want you may say something like if you go out with that friend i don't like i'll break

up with you with this you're putting them in a position where they're forced into a corner they have to choose between two people they love since they are pressured into doing

something they don't want to do your partner could start feeling resentment towards you it could affect their self-esteem and destroy the trust you've built over time and consequently hurt your relationship

and number five
giving the silent treatment

have you ever had an argument with your

partner where you needed space afterwards

it's okay to spend time alone to clear your head until you're ready to talk it out The silent treatment is different from

this while giving the silent treatment you're

refusing to talk about a problem ignoring your partner and avoiding open communication giving them the silent treatment instead of expressing your worries may act as a way for you to avoid taking responsibility if you know you're in the wrong and it could also help you escape

acknowledging or changing your behavior

a partner who is on the receiving end of

the silent treatment may feel confused

ignored hurt angry unloved or unimportant

they're left with no way to explain themselves offer an apology or find a compromise in the long run this could make their feelings for you disappear and bring your relationship to the end did you recognize some of these behaviors in yourself if so it's okay as long as you're open

to hearing it acknowledging it and changing it nobody is perfect and nobody can expect

you to be perfect the beauty of being in a relationship after all is to be able to grow and change for the better one next to another and while you both work on yourselves your bond will grow stronger than ever.